Amy Havis leverages her background as a communications strategist to share a practical perspective about how people navigate difficult conversations and life’s hardest moments. After experiencing profound personal loss, Amy became a passionate advocate for replacing silence with presence and connection. Her writing invites us to show up—at home, at work and in grief—with honesty, empathy and heart. She lives in Colorado with her family. What Not to Say at a Funeral is her first book.

WHAT NOT TO SAY AT A FUNERAL is a warm, honest, and unexpectedly humorous guide to showing up when words fail. After losing her infant daughter, Amy Havis came face to face with how ill-equipped most of us are—not just to grieve our own losses, but to support one another through them.

Drawing from lived experience, real-life scenarios, and hard-earned insight, Havis offers practical guidance for friends, families, coworkers, and communities navigating loss together.

Part narrative non-fiction, part social guide, the book invites readers to let go of platitudes, resist silence, and choose presence instead. For grievers and the people who love them, WHAT NOT TO SAY AT A FUNERAL is a compassionate reminder that imperfect presence is often the most meaningful thing we can offer.

In the spirit of THERE IS NO GOOD CARD FOR THIS, THE ART OF SHOWING UP, and IT’S OK THAT YOU’RE NOT OKAY, WHAT NOT TO SAY AT A FUNERAL speaks to the moments when comfort feels impossible and silence often takes over.

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